Let's start by acknowledging the obvious: optimism can be overdone. Or misused. For example, when the office is burning down, you don't need slogans or a strategic plan—you need a hose.
So while it's no substitute for reality or hard work, optimism—feeling hopeful and confident about the future in general and your own future in particular—offers too many benefits to pass up.
Optimism will change:
- How high you aim
- Your posture
- Your handshake
- Your smile
- The clarity of your voice
- How you dress and carry yourself
- What you do with disappointment
- What you tolerate and what you don't
- How much you invest in yourself
- What you read
- What you pay attention to
- What you do with criticism (hint: consider the source)
- What time you go to bed
- Your frame of mind when you wake up
- How well you plan
- Your ability to say no
- How you handle conflict
- Your kindness and generosity toward others
- Your kindness and generosity toward yourself
This "optimism" revelation came unexpectedly when a seminar instructor asked, "What are your biggest fears?" I listed mine, then wrote down what I wanted in their place. Bingo. Suddenly I had much better things to focus on.
You can do the same thing without paying for the seminar. Take some time today to write down your fears or frustrations—then for each one, write down what you want instead. Make it something good and life-giving.
Example: Maybe your frustration is with that co-worker who stops by for 45 minutes to say how busy he is. So for what you want instead, you might write down "Freedom to get my work done." #NotTooMuchToAsk
Whatever your desired outcome, start affirming it. Start working toward it. Believe it can be yours and carry yourself as though it already is.
Whatever your desired outcome, start affirming it. Start working toward it.
— Gina DeLapa