Good thing she's got a good meatball recipe.
But I bring this up because it makes a case to lighten up a bit—at least long enough to see things from a more helpful point of view. As in "Subscriber, we hardly knew ye." I'm much more interested in the ones who stay.
What does it mean to not take things personally?
First, it does not mean being a doormat. And it doesn't mean being a stoic. It just means recognizing that not everything is about us. Most things aren't. As the saying goes, "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about."
Let that thought help you keep perspective—especially the next time a friend or co-worker does any of the following:
- Misses a deadline
- Misses your birthday
- Forgets to say thank you
- "Forgets" to invite you to the party
- Lets the call go to voicemail
Yes, these small slights can add up—and the person who missed the deadline needs to be held to account. Likewise for the person who takes credit for your idea or otherwise crosses a line. Confession may be good for the soul, but accountability is good for the whole team. Good and necessary, yes?
How to handle the smaller stuff
It may help to ask yourself three questions:
- What am I missing?
- What might be another way of looking at this?
- What would happen if I let it go?
Sometimes you'll choose not to let it go. But whatever it is, you'll probably respond more creatively, more constructively, and more compassionately than if you had simply charged ahead.
Do this enough times with enough people and your world may never look the same.
Confession may be good for the soul, but accountability is good for the whole team.
— Gina DeLapa