- Take a blank sheet of paper and fold it in half, vertically.
- In the left column, write down all the things you don't want in a particular area of your life: your business, your career, a certain relationship, etc.
- In the right column, across from each item, write down what you prefer instead. For example, instead of a boss who is a micromanager, you might prefer a boss who's more hands-off—or no boss at all.
Use this second list to hone in on what you want and to start shaping your goals and plans. And if you're conducting a job search, consider targeting your search along three parameters: location (where you want to wake up), field/industry (what you want to talk about all day), and job function (what you want to be doing all day).
"What you want with all your heart, you'll go after with all your heart."
— Richard Nelson Bolles (1927-2017)